5 Reasons to Hang Out With People That Are Different From Us by Harvey Deutschendorf
"When everyone is thinking the same, no one is thinking.” John Wooden
We seem to gravitate to a place of comfort and like to spend time
with people who are like us. These people agree with us, think like us
and have a similar viewpoint on issues. While this makes our lives
easier, there is also a downside. Only spending time with people like
us keeps us in our comfort zone, and growth occurs outside of our
comfort zone. While it may be less comfortable to be with people who
are different, it also helps us expand ourselves in crucial areas if we
wish to grow.
Here are 5 reasons to spend time with people who are different from us.
Increases our self-awareness and acceptance of others
Being around those who think differently from us helps us to
understand ourselves better. We become more conscious of the reasons
that we chose to be and think as we do and keeps us from the trap of
believing there is only one way to see things. It helps keep us out of
the us versus them and right versus wrong thinking patterns. Instead of
black and white we see a lot of gray.
Challenges us to think critically
People who are different challenge our ways of thinking, our
perceptions and norms. We can easily fall into the trap of only seeing
things from our limited perspective. Being with others that see things
differently will keep us aware of that there are many difference
perspectives that all come with their own reasons for thinking this
way. This awareness will challenge us to change our own perceptions if
we find others that make more sense to us.
Allows us to benefit from others strengths that we may be lacking in
All of us have strengths and weaknesses. For example someone may be a
big picture thinker who has little interest and patience in the
details. This person would greatly benefit from having someone in their
close circle who is a detail person. The detail person would help them
from making bad decisions due to failing to think of all the
consequences of their actions. The reverse benefit would come to the
detail person who could never make a decision and start on a project
because they get bogged down in the details.
Helps us make better decisions
Having people in our circle who are able to see situations from many
different angles helps us to get a more complete and clearer picture
from which we can make more informed decisions. Abraham Lincoln was
well known for putting people in his cabinet who thought quite
differently from him. While many would find this threatening, he
realized that he had blind spots in his own thinking and needed people
who were strong in the areas that he was weak in. This helped him form a
strong multi-faceted team that was seldom caught off guard because they
had not thought of all aspects of an issue.
Adds zest and imagination to life
While being around those like us can make us comfortable it can also
cause us to become boring, unimaginative and dull. We need challenge in
our lives to keep us sharp and stimulated. It opens up a whole new and
exciting world of possibilities for us imagine and have fun with.
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